The Epitomy of Loneliness

The Epitomy of Loneliness

"You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with"

Oh how often do we find that the hardest part of ending a relationship is the inevitability of being "Alone", and of course, being alone means that we will be lonely? Right? Hmmmm, perhaps not...





What we tend to do in relationships, or at least what I know I do, is we forget who we are outside of the person we are with, we become so focused on being everything that the other person needs, we lose sight of who we are and who we need to be for ourselves... relationships are meant to be a partnership, where two unique people come together and learn how to function that way, function together, not as one... Yes, relationships will always require compromise, but where we tend to veer off here is we start compromising on who we are, instead of simply compromising on certain things that we do...

There have been many an occassion where I have felt lonlier in a crowded room than I have in my own company, although at the same time there have been many moments where I have felt crippling loneliness when faced with my own shadow and subsequent demons... Most of the time when I have felt the crippling loneliness has been shortly after a relationship has ended, or during a temporary separation within a relationship...

How utterly debilitating that can be, never have I known or experienced a fear like being faced with the realisation that you cannot be alone with the one person you can never be away from...

Why do we feel this way, why do we suffer so when faced with our own imperfections? Why is it that on so many occassions it is easier for us to forgive mountains of transgressions against us by the people that we care for, the people who are supposed to look after us and have our best interests at heart, than it is for us to let go of the simple misgivings we have found in ourselves?

We hold ourselves to such exceptionally high standards, when at the same time we allow everyone else to walk all over us, and we chalk it down to them being human and the obvious allowance that gives for the mistakes they will inevitably make...

It's time to allow yourself the same misgivings, it's time to treat yourself with the same compassion and empathy we treat others with...

We are all living the same life, all trying to trudge the road to happy destiny... At the end of the day, we all die "alone"... Yes, there may be people around you, but we embark on that final adventure all by ourselves...

Don't you want to take that journey with someone you actually like, what about taking that much needed time by yourself to figure out what sets your heart alight, where do you want to go, who do you want to be when all is said and done?

When you are feeling the most lonely is exactly the time when you need to be alone, wow, how crazy is that huh? Kinda like the universe telling you exactly what you need when you have no idea, when you are lost, cold and shivering in your own self doubt and lack of self knowledge...

You are a beautiful and perfect creation in your own right, all of those "imperfections" you see in yourself are meant to be there, they are there to remind you that you are a spiritual being having a human experience on this beautiful planet of ours... Remember, the essence that is you has chosen this exact life, these exact challenges that you face on a day to day basis are meant to be there to guide you, use this time to become the best you possible, and learn to love all of your flaws, as much as you love the best in others...

You're amazingly fantastic you stunning creature you!!

Go and Be Happy!! Much Love Freaks...